i'm SO ANGRY!

So as EVERYONE IN THE WORLD knows (because i talk of nothing else) Kel and i are 17 short days away from embarking one the lifelong journey of marriage!woohoo! however today i heard something on the radio about marriage (in mexico) that made me not only sad but super duper angry. Apparently (i heard this on WBNQ) in Mexico they are trying to amend the marriage license because of the above 50% divorce rate. The new amendments would say that a marriage license is only valid for 2 years (apparently 50%+ couple get divorced in the first 2 years in Mexico city and it is rising at an alarming rate) and if you choose to stay married after 2 years you have to renu your marriage licence, if not you would have identified a prenuptial agreement about money and kids so you would go your separate ways no longer married yet no need for a divorce. their reasoning behind this is because all this divorce is wasting time and resources and clogging up the court systems.

THIS IS THE DUMBEST AND MOST STUPID THING I HAVE EVER HEARD! No couple should go into marriage thinking that is this doesn't last no worries we'll be over in a year! I don't even think dating should be like that. The absurdity that marriage is of no meaning or value in a predominantly catholic society just breaks my heart. Marriage is a glorious union between two people to mirror Christ's love for His church! God didn't say "this is too hard i want my half of the money" and leave, no He said "i love you so much have my son and i want nothing in return."

Marriage is supposed to be a selfless gift from one person to each other showing the Christ within yourself to your husband or wife. I know it's not always easy, i am not even married yet and Kel and i aren't exactly on a cake walk. We have had ups and downs and plenty of struggles in our relationship! Our marriage is a chance for us to profess our Love and give sacramental grace to each other physically putting God at the center of our relationship!

Sorry about the preachy Marriage lesson, i can't help it! It bothers me so much that people keep asking me and Kel if we really want to do this or if we will make it through! I would not be marrying him if i did not think 100% that Kel and I were going to be married until death and even in our hearts after. God is the center of our life already, and after marriage he will be shown through our love together and out children that we will have together.

Now to clarify things... i do not agree in divorce. I know why people get divorced, and if there is truly a reason that a marriage is invalid that is why the church grants annulments. Things like abuse, cheating, lies, etc are not things that should ever be a part of a marriage. However, if you and your spouse are of strong faith the the Lord then they never will. I will never have to worry about Kel lying to me, cheating on me or abusing me physically or mentally. If these are your concerns before you get married then you really shouldnt get married. I know a lot of divorced people, and i seek no judgement on them. That was their choice and their decision and i am not one to pass judgement. However if someone were to ask my advice on whether or not to get a divorce i would tell them that it should not be in their vocabulary. if you are willing to destroy your family, then maybe you should be willing to try and rebuild it.

If you know Kel and I's story you know that we have had to evaluate our lives and see what we feel about divorce and marriage. Kel recently became Catholic and in this he learned and adhered to all the Catholic teachings about marriage. We have had our marriage blessed by the church and we are more blessed than ever to get to solidify our love forever in front of God and everyone we know!

It's so frustrating how the world see marriage, and i wish that every married couples could feel the blessing that Kel and i will feel the day of our wedding. I know a lot of young married, catholic (and christian) couples have the same understanding and have received God's Blessings bountifully. if everyone could see marriage as we do then divorce would never be an option.

I am shaking i am so mad at how Mexico is treating one of the greatest gifts God has given us!