Unanswered questions...

So, now that Kel and I are married (not even a whole week yet) people have been asking us about the next phase in our life... kids! I am shocked at how quickly people transition from married and expect immediately for me to be open and honest enough to discuss when and how Kel and I's family will be growing. Although i am very upfront and honest with people, i do keep some aspects of my life very very very private (ex: I can not stand PDA, Kel and I will never do more than hold hands or put arms around each other in public, our wedding days was the exception to this rule of course). One of these very private issues for me is Kids.

So I am going to publicly give the plan that Kel and I have about expanding our family on the internet so all i have to do is tell people to read my blog and leave me alone. First of all, Kel and I are open and willing to receive the blessing of children at any point in time in our life as according to God's Plan! However, this does not mean that we are intently trying to have kids right now. If we have things our way we would like to enjoy our marriage for AT LEAST 6 months, settle in, take some vacations, save A LOT of money, and really make sure our marriage is sound and comfortable before embarking on the journey of children. We would both like to have sound and steady full time with benefits jobs, but that is not going to be the basis of our decision. Overall we really need time to focus on each other, get into a routine and learn communication as a married couple.

Also, Kel and I are on a major health kick right now. Because of infertility being a very close part of my life (since my sister is awesome and very open about it check out her blog  http://familyofheads.blogspot.com/ for more information about infertility, adoption and the blessing of life) Kel and I are very very very aware of the issue. We have been taking NFP (natural family planning) classes and have learned a lot about my body and what our chances of having children are/will be. We are not 100% sure if i can ever even physically have children, but that is something we wont know until we diligently try. However we know that being able to have children is not going to be the easiest thing in the world for me and if i ever get pregnant we know it will not be the easiest of pregnancies. Because of previous health issues, my hip/leg/back problems, and my weight and general unhealthy living getting pregnant and being pregnant are automatically labeled as difficult. The doctor has explained all of this to us and because of this I am on a very strict lifestyle to getting myself as healthy as physically possible. I know i cannot do this alone, so poor Kel is also making drastic lifestyle changes.

These changes include waking up at 5am every day (no matter what time i get to bed) to ensure that i have enough time to workout before i do anything else. This will help my flexibility and my body's ability to handle extra stress on joints and muscles (btw, exercising is a very painful thing for me because of my hip and back. anything more than a brisk walk is excruciatingly painful) and to get my metabolism and blood flow moving for the entire day. I also take a nice long brisk walk before bed with my amazing husband to ensure that i don't get cramps in my muscles at night and that my hip stays in socket while i sleep. Also Kel and I are eating as healthy as possible. My breakfast is only an egg and a fruit smoothy, with snacks of fiber bars and vegetables (usually as a V8 drink because i HATE most vegetables), lunch is more fruit and a sandwich, and dinner is vegetables and a small about of protein. I throw in extra snacks of fiber and fruit then add more water than i thought physically possible and you have my day! I also have to make sure i get enough sleep to feel rested and lay off all caffeine sources (except 8ounces of coffee a day to ensure i don't kill anyone) along with not eating any sugar! This might not seem so bad for a lot of people, but for me it is a lot and the suddenness of all these lifestyle changes is the hardest part to handle. However it is SO ABSOLUTELY IMPORTANT for these changes to take place if Kel and I ever want to have the option of having children.

So to answer quesitons... yes Kel and I want kids! i am so excited to be pregnant and to start of that journey of our family, but i can wait a little bit. Our first priority right now is our life and making sure it is stable and steady. Our next priority is our health, getting me healthy and making sure that i can physically handle kids in every stage!

Hope this helps people to understand Kel and I a little bit... i promise most of my blogs will not be this informative about such private issues, but i really need people to understand that Kel and I are not against children, we just have a lot to do before we are ready for them.